You have your work, where you are doing your job correctly, already having enough responsibilities. You are also a mother of three, taking enough care of each of your kids and raising them as studious and polite children. You have your perfect family and work balance. But still, somewhere deep inside there is a tiny voice, telling you that you could do better, that you can take even more responsibilities at work. But something immediately stops you. Are you afraid that it is going to be too much pressure for you? Not sure that you can deal with it?
First of all, try to stop all negative thoughts in your head. As soon as you start hesitating in your powers, you have already given up. But what makes you think that you should not try new things, that you will fail? Just think clearly, why should you be scared of failure? Yes, new things are always scary and unclear. But it all comes with the experience. You fail once, maybe twice, but on the third time you will stand up and do the things correctly. You can do more than you think you can.
Second of all, forget about all of the stereotypes. They are not true. Are you afraid that you will be a poor employee? Do not be. Some of the employers treat working mothers suspiciously, since they believe that all they think about is their family, not caring about your duties at work. Actually, the researches from University of Zurich proved that working mothers tend to outperform the ones who do not have children. The university also found that mothers with two children perform better at work, than the mothers of one.
Are you scared that you will become a bad mother if you get more responsibilities at work? According to the research, working mothers tend to spend in average one hour with their kids, while in 1974 they used to spend around 15 minutes per day. Researches from the universities of London and Seville claim that working mothers are doing more for their children, than ever before. Another research from New York Times confirmed that working mothers experience less stress, anger and depression.
We do believe that there is no point to be scared of taking more responsibilities and trying new things. If you fail, just try to do it once again; mistakes should become a part of your learning process. Be brave and try your best, and you will realize how many things you are able to do, how strong and smart you are.
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